Wednesday, July 20, 2011


"Love at first sight... this is a photo of Xander & I the fist day he arrived home.  It was divinely magical..."


In today's world life is beyond busy, as a wife, mother & entrepreneur I know how crazy life can be.  It is truly a balancing act to care for my family, home, horses, work and me... If I'm not careful it's easy to fall into the feelings of being overwhelmed with all I have to do each day. 

Woman come to me often asking for assistance, they tell me their struggles and issues, it always touches my heart to hear their heartfelt stories.  As I listen I take in every word and energy of emotion expressed and unexpressed.  When I ask them what they do for themselves each day, most of them say, "I dont' have time for me, I have too much to do..."  

It's easy to put yourself aside and only care for your family, friends and loved ones but when you do that you're not honoring "you" which causes more stress and emotional hunger deep within.  Taking time each day to exercise or read a good book or meditating alone will empower you emotionally, spiritually and physically.  It's critical to have alone time, if even for only 10 to 30 minutes each day.  It's that special time you have to ponder your feelings and to reflect on your goals and dreams and to reflect on your hearts desires.


Life is meant to be enjoyed and embraced. How often do you find yourself working all day doing the same routines day in and day out? Do you feel uplifted and full of energy by living behind a computer or working endless hours? Do you often find that you come home from work, your children are needing your attention as well as your spouse but yet you're too tired to really sit and listen to what they have to say, need or want?

Most often than not, when you fall into stagnant water it's because you do not have balance in all areas of your life. When we become overwhelmed or discouraged it's because we're not taking time out of our busy schedule to sit back and smell the roses, or to listen to our children play or talk to a dear friend that you haven't spoken to in awhile. Life is about flowing with the stream and enjoying the beautiful scenery along the way.


Your true essence is your spirit within your beautiful body, that is who you really are. You were born perfect in every way.  Your spirit longs for spirituality more so than your body craves food and sleep.  How often do you take time to reflect on your higher self?  How often do you kneel in prayer giving thanks to the Lord for all your countless blessings?  How often do pray asking for divine guidance each day? 

By honoring your spirit you will balance your body, mind and spirit to create the life and body of your dreams more easily and with less effort.  If you feel out of sorts, depressed, sad or frustrated it's a signal from your body letting you know that you're off track spiritually.  The body is in tune with spirit, if you are out of balance wyou will feel sick, overwhelmed and stressed. 

You can have more clarity in all areas of your life if you turn to God in all areas of your life. His tender mercies are all around you each day.  If you take the time to look for them and acknowledge them with a thankful heart you will soon find that you will have more to be grateful for. 


What are you passionate about?  What stirs your soul to complete and utter joy?  Do you have a Hobie that brings you pleasure? What do you like to do?

Often times people don't take time to live their unfulfilled childhood dreams, they really don't know what they love to do.  If you have forgotten what brings happiness in doing something that you love then take time to sit down and discover your truth and desires that are in your heart.

Each day do what makes you truly happy.  Take time to fill your heart with happiness and allow the wonderful blessings of life fill your heart and  home.  Keep an attitude of gratitude and love what you do. Be true to you by honoring your hearts desires ~ make you time a top priority in your life.  If you do you will be a better, happier, more loving wife, mother and friend.


Put family first always! When you allow life to take over your tender moment in time with your spouse and children you are blocking out the essence of life.  Family is everything.  If you don't have a happy, loving family you won't have a happy life. 

Make your home a refuge from the world.  Play beautiful music and light a delicious smelling candle to set the tone for your home.  Keep it clean and clutter free.  You can look at your surroundings, your home, car, work space as well as your body and know how you truly feel inside.  If your home is a mess you have much confusion and cluttered thoughts of emotion within.  To change that, begin to have more loving, forgiving and charity in your heart.  Release negativity from your thoughts, replace them with positive thoughts of gratitude. 

You'll soon find that you'll have the desire to clean more and to take more time caring for you as well.  Always be your best for your family.  Speak kindly to one another. Dress and care for yourself each day as though you were going out on a date for the first time with your spouse. Let him know that you care.  Make quality family time a top priority and tell them how much you love and appreciate them each day.


We all have a child within us.  Too often as adults we forget what brings us ultimate joy.  By embracing the fun, childhood side of you life becomes more alive and vibrant. For me it's the love of horses.  I've always loved horses, as a child I would daydream about owning a big black horse, but that dream did not come true... until I became a wife and mother. 

I love all horses but my soul becomes electrified with the thought of the majestic Friesian spirit.  Friesians are a fairytale horse that truly enraptures my spirit in every way. 

 I've been blessed with one to call my own, his name is Xander, he was imported from Holland 4.5 years ago.  He's truly breathtaking and has a heart of gold.  He brings immense peace and joy into my life. When I'm down I just go out to my barn and love on him and I instantly feel happier.  Each day I spend time with my horses my spirit it touched deeply. 

When I'm giving my horses a hug or going for a ride they enlighten my spirit in a powerful, spiritual way,  are literally a divine gift from above.  They are always there for me as my best friends and love me unconditionally. I make it a point to be with them daily to refresh and renew my energy level. Doing what you love brings happiness into your life, it raises your endorphins which will also increase your immune system and self esteem.


You can look at your friends and know what type of person you are and what energies you radiate to others.  "Like always attracts like", it's a universal law.  If you're not proud of your friends and it's time to regroup and ponder who you are.  Let go of friendships that suck your energy or bring you down.  If you're always trying to help someone who is constantly complaining and needing your approval and support you will feel weak and sad more often. 

Surround yourself with powerful, happy, positive friends that make you want to be a better person. And in return be that kind of friend. Surround yourself with people that bring you up and support you in your goals and dreams.

Carol Whitaker
Lifestyle Fitness Consultant & Coach 
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